Can you imagine a man nervously telling his partner that he wants to become an accountant or architect, worrying it might harm their relationship? It sounds absurd, right? But when it comes to the adult industry, conversations are rarely so simple.
Let’s be real—sex-related work is a significant taboo in our society, and it will likely remain so for a long time. People project their beliefs, fears, and desires onto this subject, which is why articles like this exist for OnlyFans creators and managers but not for mechanical engineers or other professions. Your decision could affect emotional connections with your partner or your family.
As Nathan Ash says in his course, the best-case scenario would be that you and your partner work together on OnlyFans. Imagine your partner as the model and you managing promotion—a beautiful partnership where your synergy is evident both on screen and in your personal life, propelling both your finances and your relationship forward. It’s a sustainable, secure lifestyle rooted in teamwork.
However, working together isn’t always possible. If you’re determined to pursue this project solo, you need to approach the conversation with sensitivity and strategy. In this article, I’ll share how I approached it and why I believe it worked for me.
Find Your Argument
First, ask yourself: Why do I want to get into this business? The only correct answer is money. Anything else you think you might gain from OnlyFans—whether it’s recognition, connections, or opportunities—can be achieved more easily and safely with money. Money is the fastest way to turn your will into action and influence the world around you.
If you already know OnlyFans can be lucrative, the next question is: What are my life goals, and who do I want to share them with?
Once you’ve answered that, the conversation becomes clear: I want to start an OnlyFans agency to help us buy a house, travel the world, or [insert your shared dream here]. Frame OnlyFans as a tool, not a risk, and its benefits as something to be shared in your relationship.
Show Your Seriousness
It’s vital to demonstrate that you’re taking this business seriously. This isn’t a hobby or an excuse to watch nudes for free. Nor is it an avenue to meet people who could threaten your relationship.
One way to show your commitment is by explaining everything you’ve done to prepare for your agency. Share your efforts: your website, Instagram page, courses you’ve taken, and tools you’ve invested in. Emphasize that this business is about analyzing numbers and marketing strategies far more than looking at boobs.
Involve Your Partner
Building trust is key, not just with your partner but also with the models you’ll manage. A simple but effective step is to highlight your relationship in your professional presence. For example, include a photo of you and your partner on your Whatsapp, Telegram or the agency’s “About Me” page. This reassures your partner while signaling to potential models that you are already taken and your intentions are strictly professional. You’re not here to pick up women. You’re here for the money. Let it be clear: everyone here is in it for the money.
If you’re on a Zoom call with a model and your partner happens to be nearby, invite them to casually say hello or introduce them. This reinforces transparency and shows both parties that you’re already committed.
Act Naturally
Once your partner is on board, don’t hide your work. While it might be wise to focus on marketing tasks when your partner is around to limit their exposure to content, there’s no need to tiptoe around the subject. Demystifying and laughing about it is the healthiest thing you can do.
Key Takeaways for the Conversation
Every relationship is unique, with its own dynamics and boundaries. Your personality and your understanding of your partner will ultimately determine how you approach this conversation. However, a few universal principles apply:
- Frame the conversation as an important moment in your relationship, showing that you value your partner and don’t want to jeopardize your bond.
- Highlight shared benefits and make it clear how this venture can improve your lives together.
- Show that this is a serious, well-thought-out business decision, not a whimsical or risky venture.
- Present the idea as non-threatening, ensuring your partner feels secure.
This is how I approached it, and it worked for me. I hope it works for you too. Good luck!
